Have you ever wondered how to master the art of mingling? At social functions, you can always spot a person or two who seem to effortlessly work the room, weaving in and out of conversations as they connect with almost everyone in their path. Networking with that kind of social finesse doesnât come naturally to most â but thankfully itâs a skill that can, in fact, be learned and mastered through practice and preparation. Here are some tips to develop the skill set to catch the attention of those who will benefit your professional network:Â
- Be positive â When you meet new people, what runs through your head? Your instinctive reaction may speak volumes in terms of the return you receive. Attitude often guides behavior, and what you think before you walk through the door will influence the âvibesâ you give off to those you meet. Are you prone to negative self-talk? (âWhy would they want to talk to me anyway?â âThereâs no way Iâll stick out from the crowd.â âMeeting people just isnât my strength because of _____.â) Believe it or not, many â if not most â people have the same reaction in group settings. When you shift from thinking you canât to thinking you can, however, you can take the lead and bring others out of their shells. That kind of initiative radiates positivity and will make an impact on those you meet.
- Make it all about them â In his seminal How to Win Friends and Influence People, Dale Carnegie emphasized the importance of sincerely showing interest in other people. A personâs name is the sweetest and most important sound in any language, according to Carnegie, and remembering it works wonders to win a good first impression. Try to find ways to make the other person feel important, like talking to them about their interests. Itâs easy to find common ground with most people if you listen actively when asking where theyâre from, where they went to college, asking about why they chose their career path or enjoy certain hobbies. Be sure that you do so sincerely, though â thereâs nothing more off-putting than faked interest. Sincere interest is usually met with reciprocal sincere interest, however.
- Identify clear goals â What is it that youâre hoping to take away from the event? Defining even one or two objectives for a networking event or situation will help you hone in on what you need to do to meet those as well as to measure success after the fact. Are you looking to learn more about a particular field? Develop prospective sales contacts? Meet a particular person about whom youâve heard good things? When you have your objectives in place, work backwards and prepare how to meet those, thinking of what questions to ask, how to approach a new contact, etc. This will help you avoid being tongue-tied and uncertain when in the moment, instead coming off as confident and natural.
After youâve done all your preparation, make sure that you physically work the room â moving around increases the number of people with whom your path will cross, after all. Get out there and show them all youâve got!